Stand up and speak out | Being an active bystander at UNE
We’ve all witnessed something that made us uncomfortable. Maybe it was a dodgy joke, or maybe something much worse. So how often do we just stand by?
Whether it’s subtle or serious, we all have the capacity (and responsibility) to step in. Being an active bystander means interrupting harmful behaviour, not just ignoring it. Here’s how, and why, it matters.
Why does it matter?
“Active bystanders are people who, when noticing a situation that concerns them, do something about it — they are everyday superheroes.” – FUSA
Intervening can:
- Prevent situations from escalating
- Support those affected
- Challenge harmful social norms
The more people speak up, the harder it becomes for discriminatory or abusive behaviour to thrive. Yes, it can feel uncomfortable. You might worry about embarrassing yourself or making things worse, but calling something out doesn’t have to mean confrontation.
UNE’s Safe Communities team has drawn from Why We Act: Turning Bystanders into Moral Rebels by Catherine Sanderson to give you practical ways to intervene. These don’t require a soapbox or a heroic speech — just a moment of action.
1. Keep it short and clear
You don’t need a lecture. A quick, direct statement is enough.
- “That comment’s not OK.”
- “That joke’s homophobic. I don’t find it funny.”
This lets others know you don’t agree, without escalating the situation.
2. Identify it as sarcasm
One way to de-escalate is to act as though the comment must be a joke, then explain why it’s not funny.
- “I know you’re joking, but that’s pretty sexist.”
This tactic softens your tone while still making your point.
3. Make it personal
Tell them how it makes you feel. It brings the issue closer to home and makes it harder to dismiss.
- “That kind of language makes me uncomfortable.”
- “It’s hard to hear you say that.”
People are more likely to reflect if they know they’ve upset someone directly. Personal responses can’t be brushed off the same way general criticism can.
4. Practise responses
It’s okay if you don’t get it perfect every time. Try out different ways of responding and learn what feels natural for you.
You could even practise with a friend or try role-playing scenarios. The more you do it, the easier it gets. You’re building confidence, not looking for a script.
5. Get backup
Speaking out is a lot less intimidating when you know someone’s got your back.
Have a conversation with your friends. Let them know you plan to speak up when you see or hear something wrong — and ask if they’ll do the same.
You might be surprised how many people feel the same way but just need someone to lead the way.
6. Grow your empathy
If you’re still unsure whether to step in, try putting yourself in the shoes of the person being targeted. How would you feel if people stood by while you were being bullied, mocked or harassed?
Even if you don’t feel a strong emotional pull right now, empathy can be learned. Make a conscious effort to listen, learn, and shift perspective.
Being an active bystander can feel awkward and uncomfortable at first. That’s normal. But silence lets harm go unchecked.
When you speak up, even in small ways, you create space for others to do the same. You don’t need to be perfect, just willing to act.
Need support or advice?
- UNE Safe Communities: Report an incident or get guidance
- Advocacy & Welfare: Help accessing services or dealing with difficult situations
- Learn more about how FUSA’s Be a Better Human campaign is supported at UNE, visit here.
